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I stopped typing and started having a conversation about the blog post with my boyfriend. He said he__ liked the part where the narrator had explained that, while she was disturbed by the revelation that the Internet writer had a girlfriend _ because that meant he wasn__ the pure ethical person she__ perceived him to be via reading his literary criticism (which, !) __he was flattered and aroused that he was overcoming his principles in order to be with her.Keith said, __t__ like he can do no wrong. I thought that was nice.__ surprised myself by turning to him and shouting. __t__ a SLAVE MENTALITY. IT__ A SLAVE MENTALITY!!!__ tried to explain what I meant.I talked about how Ellen Willis had a theory that women didn__ know what their true sexuality was like, because they__ been conditioned to develop fantasies that enable them to act in a way that conforms to what men want from them, or what they think men want from them. And I thought about how Eileen Myles described the difference between having sex with men and having sex with women, how having sex with men was more about forcing yourself into what their idea of what sex was supposed to be. I told him that in my experience men do not often become suddenly charmed or intrigued by aspects of women that they have also perceived as off-putting or scary. Men, heterosexual men, don__ tend to make excuses for women and find reasons to admire them despite and even slightly because of their faults, unless their faults are cute little hole-in-the-stocking faults. Whereas women, heterosexual women, are capable of finding being ignored, being alternately worshiped and insulted, not to mention male pattern baldness, not just tolerable but erotic.
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I stopped typing and started having a conversation about the blog post with my boyfriend. He said he__ liked the part where the narrator had explained that, while she was disturbed by the revelation that the Internet writer had a girlfriend _ because that meant he wasn__ the pure ethical person she__ perceived him to be via reading his literary criticism (which, !) __he was flattered and aroused that he was overcoming his principles in order to be with her.Keith said, __t__ like he can do no wrong. I thought that was nice.__ surprised myself by turning to him and shouting. __t__ a SLAVE MENTALITY. IT__ A SLAVE MENTALITY!!!__ tried to explain what I meant.I talked about how Ellen Willis had a theory that women didn__ know what their true sexuality was like, because they__ been conditioned to develop fantasies that enable them to act in a way that conforms to what men want from them, or what they think men want from them. And I thought about how Eileen Myles described the difference between having sex with men and having sex with women, how having sex with men was more about forcing yourself into what their idea of what sex was supposed to be. I told him that in my experience men do not often become suddenly charmed or intrigued by aspects of women that they have also perceived as off-putting or scary. Men, heterosexual men, don__ tend to make excuses for women and find reasons to admire them despite and even slightly because of their faults, unless their faults are cute little hole-in-the-stocking faults. Whereas women, heterosexual women, are capable of finding being ignored, being alternately worshiped and insulted, not to mention male pattern baldness, not just tolerable but erotic.

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You know what I love? The spaces between I love you. The tap of your fork against the plate and how my cup of wine clicks against our table. The scratchy voice coming from the radio in the other room. The quiet sound of your hand reaching across the table and whispering over mine. How your voice sounds like your mouth on the back of my neck. The soft murmur of our easy conversation.Between these quiet Tuesday night routines, following every comma and right after every pause for breath, is I, love, and you. In the middle of every I love you is a sink full of dishes, whisper of socked feet tangled in white sheets, and gentle kisses against curved cheeks. We lyric ourselves into the laundry that needs to be finished, into the ends of every smile that follows me repeating your name. We write ourselves into the grocery bags we need to carry, the cracks running up our rented walls, the sides of the bed we choose to drag up the sails of heavy eyed dreams.Like the spaces between our fingers, in the spaces between I, love, and you, we wait.The in-betweens have always been my favorite.

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