One thing I have come to realize is that love is not always happiness.

The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself. It is in this relationship that you set the standard for all others.

If you really want to be happy, don't just go for the money. Go for the relationship that lasts. Go for things of greater value.

Marie, let__ suppose that two firemen go into a forest to put out a small fire. Afterwards, when they emerge and go over to a stream, the face of one is all smeared with black, while the other man__ face is completely clean. My question is this: which of the two will wash his face? That__ a silly question. The one with the dirty face of course._ No, the one with the dirty face will look at the other man and assume that he looks like him. And, vice versa, the man with the clean face will see his colleague covered in grime and say to himself: I must be dirty too. I__ better have a wash._ What are you trying to say?_ I__ saying that, during the time I spent in the hospital, I came to realize that I was always looking for myself in the women I loved. I looked at their lovely, clean faces and saw myself reflected in them. They, on the other hand, looked at me and saw the dirt on my face and, however intelligent or self-confident they were, they ended up seeing themselves reflected in me thinking that they were worse than they were. Please, don__ let that happen to you.

Do not sabotage your new relationship with your last relationship__ poison.

That's the big picture, your happiness. And health. You should never care what a man thinks of you -- until he demonstrates to you that he cares about making you happy. If he isn't trying to make you happy, then send him back from "whence" he came because winning him over will have no benefit. At the end of the day, happines, joy...and yes...your emotional stability...those comprise the only measuring stick you really need to have.