You know what__ worse than burying your own child? Not burying your own child.

If you don't believe in God, it may help to remember this great line of Geneen Roth's: that awareness is learning to keep yourself company. And then learn to be more compassionate company, as if you were somebody you are fond of and wish to encourage. I doubt that you would read a close friend's early efforts and, in his or her presence, roll your eyes and snicker. I doubt that you would pantomime sticking your finger down your throat. I think you might say something along the lines of, 'Good for you. We can work out some of the problems later, but for now, full steam ahead!

_she had nothing to do but to forgive herself and be happier than ever_

God can't clean the house of you when you're still in it.

I know nothing, except what everyone knows--if there when grace dances, I should dance.

We stitch together quilts of meaning to keep us warm and safe, with whatever patches of beauty and utility we have on hand.