divorce

Hollywood brides keep the bouquets and throw away the grooms.

Maybe she has a wrinkle on her face in just the right place and I find it attractive. Maybe she says all of her statements as questions and I find that endearing. Maybe she swallows instead of spits or maybe I was just looking for a way to kill time with someone new over the next five years. The reasons why don__ matter.

You often hear it said that people have bad marriages, but in fact, this is not true. Marriage is a God instituted covenant between a man and a woman, and it is good. That has never changed."The institution hasn__ failed _ people are failing to work out their problems. Couples are simply giving up and walking away, or simply have no idea what they can try next. The good news is that even __oured_ relationships can be healed. Things can change. People can change. Marriages can be better than they ever were before.

She didn__ know that loss was alive in the world, a thief always about to slam you and steal everything you had.

Endings and beginnings look just the same.

Why don__ you just pretend that the asshole dropped dead? You can__ call or write to a dead man. Put a couple of candles in front of his picture, say a few Hail Marys, and get it over with.

At the end of a marriage, no one wins. There is only anger, sorrow, guilt, emptiness, and defeat.

But when you've had children with someone you're divorced from, divorce defines everything; it's the lurking fact, a slice of anger in the pie of your brain.

In college, I had a course in Latin, and one day the word "divorce" came up. I always figured it came from some root that meant "divide." In truth, it comes from "divertere," which means "to divert."I believe that. All divorce does is divert you, taking you away from everything you thought you knew and everything you thought you wanted and steering you into all kinds of other stuff, like discussions about your mother's girdle and whether she should marry someone else.

It turns out there is something worse than attending a wedding where you don't know anyone: attending a wedding where you know six people, and they are all your ex-husband's best friends.

Divorce is a fire exit. When a house is burning, it doesn__ matter who set the fire. If there is no fire exit, everyone in the house will be burned!

When you divorce someone, you divorce their whole family, Madeline had told her once.

And I know, by Noah's face, that even though he knew it, he didn't believe it, even though we all knew it, we were all holding on, somehow, hoping they'd keep trying, that they could just keep on living and fighting. We trusted them to do that.

My father was gone. I went up to his suite, not to see him, but to figure out if he had been gone or left in a hurry. It looked like a tornado had visited so I assume he started packing as soon as he heard I was coming. I spit in his open underwear drawer. I know that__ nuts but I always try to leave a little something for the asshole on my visits.

She must ask; she must heal, and if she couldn__ heal, she must suffer, but if there was a chance, she must take it.

It is not the pain from the present that is killing you, but all your repressed feelings from the past that adds weight to it.

Taking a thing apart is always faster than putting something together. This is true of everything except marriage.

The bewilderment is the worst part. That__ what they don__ tell you in divorce articles. They talk about anger and loneliness and growing apart and starting over and being kind to yourself, but they don__ tell you about the untold hours in the black hole of why. Why? What changed? When? Why was I the one you chose to marry, but all of a sudden, I__ not enough anymore?