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The abusive man__ high entitlement leads him to have unfair and unreasonable expectations, so that the relationship revolves around his demands. His attitude is: __ou owe me._ For each ounce he gives, he wants a pound in return. He wants his partner to devote herself fully to catering to him, even if it means that her own needs__r her children____et neglected. You can pour all your energy into keeping your partner content, but if he has this mind-set, he__l never be satisfied for long. And he will keep feeling that you are controlling him, because he doesn__ believe that you should set any limits on his conduct or insist that he meet his responsibilities.
Lundy Bancroft Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
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The abusive man__ high entitlement leads him to have unfair and unreasonable expectations, so that the relationship revolves around his demands. His attitude is: __ou owe me._ For each ounce he gives, he wants a pound in return. He wants his partner to devote herself fully to catering to him, even if it means that her own needs__r her children____et neglected. You can pour all your energy into keeping your partner content, but if he has this mind-set, he__l never be satisfied for long. And he will keep feeling that you are controlling him, because he doesn__ believe that you should set any limits on his conduct or insist that he meet his responsibilities.
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Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

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