addictiveness

Scores of high-powered men and women are addicted to substances or destructive addictive patterns of behaviour. As a matter of fact, it is easier to hide one__ addiction while maintaining a high-powered position compared to the addicts and alcoholics we see sleeping on street corners.

Love addicts often pick partners who are emotionally unavailable because deep down, they don__ feel worthy of having a healthy, loving relationship. A love addict craves and obsesses about becoming enmeshed or __ne_ with another human being at all costs, even if it means putting themselves in potential danger.

Top lines to a human being who tends to isolate (an avoidant) would mean they make an effort to talk to another human being when the opportunity arises. A top line can also mean that, whether we feel like it or not, we are committed to our recovery and to improving our emotional and professional life. The idea of __op lines_ is not to be hard on ourselves or to put us in a position where we feel unsafe or burnt out. It__ a way to avoid missing opportunities to learn, serve and grow.

Regardless of the different stages in our human development, unless we learn how to create loving and fulfilling relationships (with ourselves and others), addiction will follow _ not necessarily as a manifestation of substance misuse but in the form of codependence, compulsive thinking, unhealthy relationships, sex and love addictions, overeating, insidious incarnations of self-harm and so on.

A sex addict is also emotionally anorexic _ they must be in order to continue participating in isolated behaviour such as being addicted to pornography and being promiscuous or having multiple affairs. All of these secretive behaviour patterns affect a family and home.

Think of an untreated sex addict who spends hours every night until the early hours watching pornography on the internet instead of spending that time with their wife or husband, and then becomes so tired due to the late nights that their professional life suffers. The sex addict__ behaviour will cause resentment, destroy trust and create economic insecurities in the family and home.

Mental stories can literally spoil a human life. It took me a long time to become aware of my mental commentary, such as: __verything always goes wrong_, __ won__ be accepted_, ____ a failure_ or __hat__ the point?_ Those fears were deep-rooted and triggered many upsetting addictive patterns of behaviour

Drug and alcohol addiction almost killed me. I was a grave substance misuser in my teens. I started drinking at ten, smoking at eleven and by the time I attended high school aged twelve, I was regularly smoking marijuana and drinking alcohol on weekends. I was a full-blown alcoholic at thirteen. Tragically, I had my stomach pumped at fourteen and although I promised my family I would never drink again, I started less than two weeks later. I was completely hooked on alcohol.

Some addicts do not even have basic parenting and instead are beaten, sexually abused, left to be looked after by a dysfunctional __arer_, put in orphan homes or rejected by their community. If you calculate the millions of emotionally neglected children and observe them growing up together trying to __et by in life_, you will understand why many adults (adult children) have addictive personalities.

When we observe the flow of our breathing, we transcend our thoughts and are able to bring mind and body into harmony with each other. Thus, we create calm.

Body scan meditation is mentally scanning through each part of the body with presence. It helps us be one with the body. Thus, we can feel if we are holding on to any tension or heaviness or any static emotions. And by doing so, we can find relief and internal freedom.