alcoholism-addiction-recovery

Drinking is something people do; it's not what you are. But when it becomes what you are, you need to think about becoming something else.

You are not an alcoholic or an addict. You are not incurably diseased. You have merely become dependent on substances or addictive behavior to cope with underlying conditions that you are now going to heal, at which time your dependency will cease completely and forever.

Cruel Harvest by Fran Elizabeth Grubb is a memoir that will touch your heart.

I carried a bravado about my drinking like I was a hero of debauchery. But on that Christmas Day, I felt like shit. I had a vague realisation that I was just trying to keep up with some version of myself that I had decided was accurate.

I cannot trust my other side, my drunken side, to act in my best interests anymore.

I see that a man cannot give himself up to drinking without being miserable one-half his days and mad the other.

Alcoholism is above all a disease of denial.

AA purports to be open to anyone, as it is stated in Tradition Tree, "The only requirement for AA membership is a desire to stop drinking," but it isn't open to everyone. It's open only to those who are willing to publicly declare themselves to be alcoholics or addicts and who are willing to give up their inherent right of independence by declaring themselves powerless over addictive drugs and alcohol, as stated in Step One, "We admitted we are powerless over alcohol- that our lives had become unmanageable.

Being loud after drinking wine doesn't help. Being silent after drinking wine doesn't help. Nothing really ever gets solved either way.

People who are dependent are merely using alcohol as a crutch to get through the day. Yet doctors and scientists are still treating "alcoholism" as if it is the problem, when it has nothing to do with the problem. They might as well be studying "scratchism" for people who have a chronic itch.

The Big Book__ chapter We Agnostics draws a line in the sand: God either is or He isn__. What was our choice to be (Alcoholics Anonymous, 53)? Nature abhors a vacuum and a state of nothing can__ exist in either the material or spiritual world. This kind of binary thinking made sense in the autocratic world of 1939. But in a democratic, pluralist society, all-or-nothing thinking is a cognitive distortion__ philosophical assumption that everything is right or wrong, good or evil, superior or inferior. In this millennium, people can hold opposing views and be equals in the same community. Our Traditions, lovingly and tolerantly, make room for more than one truth. That__ a good thing, because the only problem with the truth is that there are so many versions of it.