gender-role

Dissociation from the body and emotions _ numbness _ is a basic requirement of the male ideal. Hardy and Hough point out that the patriarchal culture__ influence is so strong on this point that it interferes with men ever recognizing that pain is a normal indicator of a problem. And as the pain or discomfort increases, men are forced to choose between two problematic alternatives:If I admit I__ sick then I must do something about it. That may entail seeing a doctor which implies I__ weak, not in control of myself, not tough enough.However, if I don__ get help, I__l get sicker and more vulnerable, really helpless

Few men realize how much of their lives are lived in pursuit of the values our culture has traditionally associated with masculinity. These values _ a primary focus on work, logical thinking and always being in emotional control _ have many benefits to men and their families. When taken to extremes, the pursuit of traditional masculine values becomes a cage for feelings, a stranglehold on life itself.

It is very likely that men who are more gender role identified would never be seen as codependent because so many of their gender role traits are __ormal_ for an avoidantly attached codependent. Men with gender role conflict may pre-sent as more anxious, in general, and are more likely to be identified as codependent.