pathological-liars

Love is a verb, not a noun. It is active. Love is not just feelings of passion and romance. It is behavior. If a man lies to you, he is behaving badly and unlovingly toward you. He is disrespecting you and your relationship. The words __ love you_ are not enough to make up for that. Don__ kid yourself that they are.

When your lover is a liar, you and he have a lot in common, you're both lying to you!

MAKING THE LIE MAKE SENSE:When denial (his or ours) can no longer hold and we finally have to admit to ourselves that we__e been lied to, we search frantically for ways to keep it from disrupting our lives. So we rationalize. We find __ood reasons_ to justify his lying, just as he almost always accompanies his confessions with __ood reasons_ for his lies. He tells us he only lied because_. We tell ourselves he only lied because_. We make excuses for him: The lying wasn__ significant/Everybody lies/He__ only human/I have no right to judge him.Allowing the lies to register in our consciousness means having to make room for any number of frightening possibilities:_ He__ not the man I thought he was._ The relationship has spun out of control and I don__ know what to do_ The relationship may be over. Most women will do almost anything to avoid having to face these truths. Even if we yell and scream at him when we discover that he__ lied to us, once the dust settles, most of us will opt for the comforting territory of rationalization. In fact, many of us are willing to rewire our senses, short-circuit our instincts and intelligence, and accept the seductive comfort of self-delusion.