Sharon Salzberg

Real Love may run on a lower voltage, but it__ also more grounded & sustainable.

Whether we fear the existence of boundaries with others or crave more of them, there__ no denying that individuation and separation are inevitable parts of loving relationships that become the site of tension.

Feelings of apathy as they relate to our relationships often stem from insufficiently paying attention to those around us.

Living in a story of a limited self__o any degree__s not love.

When we experience inner impoverishment, love for another too easily becomes hunger: for reassurance, for acclaim, for affirmation of our worth.

Letting go of the belief that we__e powerless to help relieve our own suffering enhances our ability not only to heal but also to genuinely love and receive the love of others.

Identifying the source of our personal narratives helps us to release its negative aspects and re-frame it in ways that promote wholeness.

We learn from conflicts only when we are willing to do so.

Only when we start to distinguish reality from fantasy that we can humbly, with eyes wide open, forge loving and sustainable connections with others.

Maybe what we really need is to change our relationship to what is, to see who we are with the strength of a generous spirit & a wise heart.

How we traverse the space between us when conflict arises has a profound effect on the health and longevity of our relationships.

A relationship is the union of two psychological systems.

A particularly difficult line to navigate is the one between fear and love, especially for parents, who want more than anything to protect their children from suffering.

So often we operate from ideas of love that don__ fit our reality.

Be open to the possibility that there are other paths available to you in relating to yourself and to another.

Until we begin to question our basic assumptions about ourselves and view them as fluid, not fixed, it__ easy to repeat established patterns and, out of habit, reenact old stories that limit our ability to live and love ourselves with an open heart.

Although much of the work we do in committed relationships we do with our partners, sometimes it__ necessary to start with ourselves.

The key in letting go is practice. Each time we let go, we disentangle ourselves from our expectations and begin to experience things as they are.