Vironika Tugaleva

The history of your happiness is the history of your feeling connected.

Our work is not to become unique. We are unique. Our work is to unleash our sense of adventure and to allow the inner whisper that says __ome hither_ to be reason enough to go.

Perhaps the most liberating moment in my life was when I realized that my self-loathing was not a product of my inadequacy but, rather, a product of my thoughts.

A healer is someone who seeks to be the light that she wishes she had in her darkest moments.

Your darkest moments are not meant to be swept under the carpet, hidden from the world in the silent pursuit of perfection. The darkness you've overcome is your ticket into leadership. It's what you're meant to light up in the world.

To accept responsibility for your own feelings, your own triggers, and your own experience does not mean to stop communicating with others about how their words and actions affect you. You can own your emotions by not blaming others, and still give the people in your life gentle, loving feedback about how they can treat you in a way that helps your healing and happiness. Creating safe spaces is an interdependent process. It's not ever all about you and it's not ever all about the other person. It's about you coming together and working on the dynamics of your relationship together, taking responsibility for your own part and doing what you can to contribute to the well-being of the other.

No matter how much you cry, the tears will dry. No matter how many nightmares, flashbacks, visions, or terrors you endure, they will pass. To weather these in order to find your true self and the happiness you deserve, that is not a risk. To waste the time you have in this body, never showing your soul to yourself or anyone else, living in fearful misery _ that is really the most dangerous thing you can do.

Every person is driven to self-deceive, simply to get out of the discomfort of the truth. The best relationships are with people who will not let you be blind. They reveal your hidden strengths and your concealed wounds.

Who can see inside the deepest recesses of your imagination and manifest those wishes into your daily experience? Who can appreciate those subtle nuances of character you've acquired by overcoming your deepest fears? Who can truly respect those things that are no longer a part of you because of all your work to release them? Who can see the strength left behind in the wake of your unique struggles and obstacles? Who will see you for who you are, appreciating everything that is there, everything that is not, everything that can be, if you do not? Who else can?

I could not see beauty until I held hands with chaos in silence.

Most of your healing journey will be about unlearning the patterns of self-protection that once kept you safe.

Emotions are not problems to be solved. They are signals to be interpreted.

Be what you are. Do what you love. Speak what you feel. Don__ hide your humanity. Celebrate it. Embrace it.That is how you change the world.

The search for the soul mate, the perfect partner to complete you, is a bit like searching for the perfect food when you__e got a giant ulcer in your stomach. No matter what you find, it will never be good enough.

We have a love-shaped hole within us.

I am happy not because I am without pain, but because I know I am not that pain.

Who will you love if not yourself? Other people? How can you love someone for anything but their raw, naked humanity? How can you say you love someone if it is not for their flaws and quirks, snorts and hurts, triggers and tears? Anything else is not love. It is idealization. And, as long as you do it to yourself, you will do it to everyone. You will not love anyone or anything until those eyes in the mirror soften up and embrace the beauty that is already within.

While we tend to think of love as some faraway place, it is actually a place nearby that we have forgotten.