ashamed

O [Roman] people be ashamed; be ashamed of your lives. Almost no cities are free of evil dens, are altogether free of impurities, except the cities in which the barbarians have begun to live...Let nobody think otherwise, the vices of our bad lives have alone conquered us...The Goths lie, but are chaste, the Franks lie, but are but are generous, the Saxons are savage in cruelty...but are admirable in chastity...what hope can there be [for the Romans] when the barbarians are more pure [than they]?"-Salvian

The dark might be dark, but at least we don__ have to look at ourselves when we__e standing in it.

Our need to be "greater than" or "less than" has been a defense against toxic shame. A shameful act was committed upon us. The perpetrator walked away, leaving us with the shame. We absorbed the notion that we are somehow defective. To cover for this we constructed a false self, a masked self. And it is this self that is the overachiever or the dunce, the tramp or the puritan, the powermonger or the pathetic loser.

These are the stories that we tell ourselves and only ourselves, and they are better left unshared.

Things becomes invisible at the very moment I refuse to grant them importance. And while I am utterly ashamed to admit it, many of the most important things in my life are invisible.

I__ secretly looking forward to someone whom I__ no longer ashamed to explain myself to, whom I can peel off all my metaphors and codes and reveal what the hell has happened all these years.

I'm like a starving man who has been given food. Maybe he's cold, and his clothes are torn, and he's ashamed, but he's not unhappy.

You were never created to live depressed, defeated, guilty, condemned, ashamed or unworthy. We were created to be victorious.

The only reason that some people aren__ ashamed of their parents and/or siblings is because they know that we know that they did not choose them.

Having a date with someone other than your ex-wife after being a married man for more than twenty five years was an important occasion alright, but wearing a tie she bought with such strong emotional value attached to it was a form of cowardice, a subconscious reluctance to let go.

You cannot really shame a man who sincerely does not care what others think of him.

What a shabby lot of highbrows have turned out tonight," he said, when he saw us. "It makes me ashamed to be one.

Some disabled people spend a significant amount of their energy on trying to come across as abled or as not that disabled.

We would not be ashamed of doing some of the things we do in private, if the number of sane human beings who do them in public were large enough.

Passing their toilet training is the very last thing that some adults did that has made their parents proud of them.

In a relationship with God, our most secret places once thickly cloaked and meticulously hidden away now stand before us utterly and entirely exposed. And it may be that this dreaded fear is the single thing that keeps us an arm__ length from God, and forever a single step away from His blessings.

Women in love are less ashamed than men. They have less to be ashamed of.

For a moment, I debated whether I should tell someone about the words I'd started writing down, but I couldn't. In a way, I felt ashamed, even though my writing was the one thing that whispered okayness in my ear. I didn't speak it, to anyone.